A Sad Sad Story Please Read

Married or not you should read this...


“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

So True

I dunno why I always do this but I think I trying to hide something which deep inside of me =)

Facts about Girls And Guys

100 facts about guys that a girl should know

1. Guys don’t actually look after good-looking girls. They prefer neat and presentable girls.

2. Guys hate people who flirts.

3. A guy can love you for a minute, but forget you later on.

4. When a guy says he doesn’t understand you, it simply means "you’re not thinking the way he is".

5. “Are you doing something?” or “Have you eaten already?” are the first usual questions a guy asks on the phone just to get out from stammering.

6. Guys may be flirting around all day but at the end of the day, they usually will think about the girl that they been loving.

7. When a guy really likes you, he’ll disregard all your bad characteristics.

8. Guys go crazy over a girl’s smile.

9. Guys will do anything just to get the girl’s attention.

10. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend.

11. When guys want to meet your parents. Let them.

12. Guys want to tell you many things but they can’t. Guys have the habit to keep plans and solving problems themselves and most of it will end up in drinking (due to can't solve the problem and didn't want to share it out)...

13. Guys cry!!!

14. Don’t provoke the guy to heat up. Believe me. He will.

15. Guys can never dream and hope too much.

16. Can't ask a guys to accept their defeat. Coz they won't.

17. When you touch a guy’s heart, there’s no turning back.

18. Giving a guy a hanging message like “You know what? Uh…never mind!” would make him jump to a conclusion whereby that is a secret to make a him angry.

19. Guys go crazy when a girls touch/hold their hands.

20. Guys are good flatterers when they with people which they don't recognize but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.

21. When a guy makes a prolonged “umm” or makes any excuses when you’re asking him to do you a favor, he’s actually saying that he doesn’t like you and he can’t lay down the card (lay down a card = confirmation) for you.

22. When a girl says “no”, a guy hears it as “try again tomorrow.”

23. You have to tell a guy things you really want before he gets the message clearly. It means don't drag the conversation just tell him what you want.

24. Guys hate nice boy! IS TRUE!!!!

25. Guys love their moms.

26. A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you a couple of roses.

27. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn’t mean that the guy likes her.

28. You can never understand him unless you listen to him.

29. If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime. He does.

30. Beware. Guys can make gossips scatter through half of the face of the earth faster than girls can.

31. Like Eve, girls are one of the guys' biggest weaknesses.

32. Guys are very open about themselves.

33. It's good to test a guy first before you believe him. But don’t let him wait too long. If too long he will take it as end of the conversation.

34. No guy is bad when he is courting.

35. Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty. Even a small dot. That brings the reason why guys take a lot of bath in single day.

36. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they’re not that much pretty.

37. Your best girl friends, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his problems with...she may end up being admired by your boyfriend.

38. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don’t need to give advice.

39. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.

40. A guy finds ways to keep you off from linking with someone else.

41. Guys love girls with brains more than girls in miniskirts.

42. Guys try to find the stuffed toy a girl wants but would unluckily get the wrong one.

43. Guys virtually brag about anything.

44. Guys cannot keep secrets that girls tell them.

45. Guys think too much.

46. Guys’ fantasies are unlimited.

47. Girls’ height doesn’t really matter to a guy but her weight does!

48. Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too possessive. So watch out girls!!!

49. When a girl makes the boy suffer during courtship, it would be hard for him to let go of that girl.

50. It’s not easy for a guy to let go of his girlfriend after they broke up especially when they’ve been together for 3 years or more.

51. You have to tell a guy what you really want before getting involved with other guys.

52. A guy has to experience rejection, because if he’s too-good-never-been-busted, never been in love and hurt, he won’t be matured and grow up.

53. When an unlikable circumstance comes, guys blame themselves a lot more than girls do. They could even hurt themselves physically.

54. Guys have strong passion to change but have weak will power.

55. Guys are tigers in their peer groups but become tamed to be a pussycat with their girlfriends.

56. When a guy pretends to be calm, check if he’s sweating. You’ll probably see that he is nervous.

57. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl. He really is.

58. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he’s just actually saying, “Please come and listen to me”

59. Guys don’t really have final decisions.

60. When a guy loves you, bring out the best in him.

61. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him.

62. If a guy has been kept shut or silent, say something.

63. Guys believe that there’s no such thing as love at first sight, but court the girls anyway and then realize at the end that he is wrong.

64. Guys like femininity not feebleness.

65. Guys don’t like girls who punch harder than they do.

66. A guy may instantly know if the girl likes him but can never be sure unless the girl tells him.

67. A guy would waste his time over video games and basketball, the way a girl would do over her romance novels and make-ups.

68. Guys love girls who can cook or bake.

69. Guys like girls who are like their moms. No kidding!

70. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.

71. A guy’s friend knows everything about him. Use this to your advantage.

72. Don’t be a snob. Guys may easily give up on the first sign of rejection. So think before you say NO

73. Don’t be biased. Try loving a guy without prejudice and you’ll be surprised.

74. Girls who bathe in their eau de perfumes do more repelling than attracting guys.

75. Guys are more talkative than girls are especially when the topic is about girls.

76. Guys don’t comprehend the statement “Get lost” too well.

77. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions but still love them more.

78. When a guy gives a crooked or pretentious grin at your jokes, he finds them offending and he just tried to be polite.

79. Guys don’t care about how shiny their shoes are unlike girls.

80. Guys tend to generalize about girls but once they get to know them, they’ll realize they’re wrong.

81. Any guy can handle his problems all by his own. He’s just too stubborn to deal with it.

82. Guys find it so objectionable when a girl swears. It means guys can't easily trust girls when they promise a thing.

83. Guys’ weakest point is at the knee!!! kick it and he will show it.

84. When a problem arises, a guy usually keeps himself cool but is already thinking of a way out.

85. When a guy is conscious of his looks, it shows he is not good at fixing things.

86. When a guy looks at you, either he’s amazed of you or he’s criticizing you.

87. When you catch him cheating on you and he asks for a second chance, give it to him. But when you catch him again and he asks for another chance, ignore him.

88. If a guy lets you go, he really loves you.

89. If you have a relationship with a guy, and your boy best friend always glances at you and it obviously shows that he is jealous whenever you’re with your that boyfriend, all I can say is your boy best friend loves you more than your boyfriend does.

90. Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience. Guys learn from experience practically.

91. You can tell if a guy is really hurt or in pain when he cries in front of you!

92. If a guy suddenly asks you for a date, ask him first why. Most of the guys not just want a simple date.

93. When a guy says he can’t sleep if he doesn’t hear your voice even just for one night, hang up. He also tells that to another girl. He only flatters you and sometimes makes fun of you.

94. You can truly say that a guy has good intentions if you see him praying sometimes.

95. Guys seek for advice not from a guy but from a girl.

96. Girls are allowed to touch boys’ things. Not their hair!

97. If a guy says you’re beautiful, that guy likes you.

98. Guys hate girls who overreact.

99. Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships.

100. Guys hate girls who keep secret from them. They expect you to tell them everything that makes them feel you give them good intention.

100 facts about girls that a guy should know

1. Girls like guys who can listen.

2. Girls can sacrifice anything just to hold back the guy that she truly loves.

3. Girls don't like enemy. They just want a simple friendship instead.

4. Girls like to gossip about guys they like.

5. Girls will find thousand of reason which is not hurting to reject your offer.

6. Girls don't like trouble.

7. Girls just want a guy to love her forever.

8. Girls takes things complicatedly.

9. Girls like to keep beauty in order to get the guy she likes attention.

10. Girls don't like guys to prolong answers when they asking about something serious.

11. Girls care for others.

12. Girls BIGGEST weakness getting OLD, SCARS, PIMPLE =(, and of course WRINKLES.

13. Girls hate guys who compare their looks or other stuff with their X's.

14. Girls take patient to listen.

15. Girls hate guys who's immature.

16. Girls hate talkative guys.

17. When a girl approach to a guy alone is symbolize that she need a partner and hope you are the one at there for them.

18. For all we talk about how hot guys are. We mostly care about their personality.Though a hot body is a plus/bonus.

19. Girls like guys to understand their personal feelings .

20. Girls like to call guys they admire/love/felt interested with a nickname.

21. Girls like to show how independent they are but actually they not...

22. Girls can't live without MONEY.

23. Girls felt interesting to a guy with talent.

24. Girls can sit all day just to listen to guys but of course please don't repeat your sentence.

25. Girls think more about the consequences.

26. Girls like happy ending story.

27. Girls like to compare their life with some fairy tale story.

28. Don’t ever lie to girls, they always find out.

29. Girls don’t enjoy talking dirty to you as much as you don't enjoy listening to a girl.

30. Never say to girl you understand when you really don’t.

31. Always remember girls are pretty, but yours is the Prettiest! and the Best!!!

32. Guys don’t have PMS; don’t act like you know what it’s feels like.

33. Guys if you say something sweet to a girl you might get yourself off the hook, doing something sweet will always get yourself off the hook.

34. Girls know you don't when a guys talk about having a big dick.

35. Girls don’t like it when a guy act like The Mr Big Guy.

36. No matter what you say, your ex-girlfriend is STILL a bitch for the girl that really love you.

37. Sometimes is good to be sensitive, some!!!times!!!!

38. If you did something wrong or even if you didn’t, apologize.

39. Fashion police do exist. In a girl world.

40. Shave no matter how cool you think your goatte or beard or mustache looks, girls hate it.

41. Girls will always think they are fat, so humor them and tell them, they aren't.

42. Watching for shooting stars is more romantic than watching guys play video games.

43. Many girls won't let you see their tears, unless they wanted you to comfort them.

44. Girls like dropping small flirts with other guys, to see are you really interested in them?

45. Most of the girls prefer to be call beautiful than hot or sexy. But not all of them.

46. Girls only wear miniskirts, tank tops and skimpy cloths for guys they love. So if you don't like what they wear just say something likely: you look really nice today, but do you know... I think I like you in jeans better."

47. Girls travel in groups for one of two reasons:

1) Because they want to share some form of gossip with each other or get advice on something

2) They don't want to get caught up by themselves with the guy they like because they won't know what to say and they are afraid if they make a fool out of themselves.

48. MOST girls spend about 15% of the time thinking about specific guys, 20% thinking of guys in general, 25% thinking of how to get guys to notice us and what to say when we do, 30% of the time TALKING about guys (even if someone else isn't listening), and 10% of the time doing something else. So, guys appreciate us.

49. Girls automatically assume that all guys are HAMSAP and only want to get into their pants until you prove it otherwise some small part of us still thinks that way.

50. Most girls are under the impression that guys only want skinny 'hot' girls.

51. Most girls enjoy being paraded around once in awhile in front of your friends. they enjoy having you show them off to your friends, kind of like, 'Hey, look at my hot ass girlfriend! Aren't you jealous?" But they don't enjoy being nothing but a trophy girl. XD hehe.

52. Nicknames like "Babe, or darling" are safe to call just about any girl. But beware of "Princess or Angel". Some girls will take offense to this thinking you are calling them to innocent or incapable of taking care of themselves.

53. Speaking of nicknames, almost every girl has ONE nickname that they just love to be called.

54. Most girls will drop lots of hints to tell you that they like you, but won't come right out and say" I like you" or "I love you". If you think they like you, that is a good chance for you to propose.

55. Scenario time! Example: you like a girl named Ashley, Ashley has a friend named Brenda. Brenda comes up to you in the hall and asks "Do you like Ashley?"

-More often this shows in this scenario when Ashley asked Brenda to ask you because she is too shy to ask you herself. Now you might think "WHAT!? NO!! DON"T TELL HER THAT!!!" but in reality, this is a good thing. Because there is a good chance she already likes you. And if she doesn't, she will now be looking at you in a different way, and let me tell you. It's a lot easier for a girl to fall for a guy if you already know they like you. So it's safe. So just go ahead and tell Brenda that you really like Ashley. Take this as a chance.

56. Girls hate it when guys say perverted things.

57. Girls love to feel special, even though they might not show it.

58. Girls talk about everything with their girl friends. So unless you tell that girl not to tell them about something, they eventually WILL know about it within 3 days. And if you are the girl's boyfriend, that means, you're possibly 90% in their conversation. And believe me, trash talking takes up most of it, unless you're a Greek god, which you're not...

59. Girls hate guys with bad hygiene.

60. Girls love it when a guy pulls them close by the waist.

61. Most girls like a guy that will willing dance with them, even if he doesn't know how.

62. Usually, when a girl is sarcastically mean to you, it means they're attracted to you, but are afraid that they'll be showing too much.

63. A kiss on the hand with the right timing can be a REAL TURN-ON.

64. Some girls can think about their crushes for 18+ hours straight. No exaggeration.

65. When a guy says something really sentimental, girls will remember it forever.

66. Girls get embarrassed easily, even if guys don't know what the hell just happened.

67. Girls daydream about their crushes ALL the time. They just don't show it.

68. When a girl is upset and wants you to listen, she wants you to listen. She doesn't need you to fix it or tell her how to. She just wants you to listen.

69. When a girl is crying, she feels a lot safer if you pull her close and tell her that everything is going to be all right. And more likely than not, it will endear them to you more than anything else.

70. Girls love it when guys say their name.

71. Girls love confidence guys.

72. When a girl cooks for you, you know you mean a lot to her.

73. Girls hate it when other girls flirt. Yet they flirt themselves too. Ah, the beauty of irony.

74. Whatever guys do, don't just show up at girls house unexpected or at least without ringing the door bell...coz they run around with their underwear just like you do. And no matter how much you would like to see that, we will likely never talk to you again.

75. Girls want you to beware of every male relative and all guy friends. All of them would kick your ass at the drop of a hat, and a lot of them wouldn't even wait for the damn hat. Girls just don't want you to be too obvious.

76. Girls enjoy being kissed by you in front of your friends. It makes us feel like you care a lot about us.

77. Violent statements like "If that guy keeps looking at you, I'm going to tear his head off" are appealing.

78. Girls don't want guys to say you love her if you don't mean it.

79. Girls love it when guys make eye contact with girls while you both have a conversation.

80. Most girls are afraid of losing their independence to guys (for some unknown reason which until now I still can't get it). =.="

81. If you ask a girl which you think she like you out directly, more likely than not, she will say yes to you. Even if she only has lukewarm feelings for you, because it will give her the chance to get to know you better and get to like you even more.

82. Most girls love it when guys ask them for advice.

83. Girls like it when guys tell them what they are thinking.

84. After guys been dating with girls for a while, realize that girls really have started to trust guys. When guys have a girlfriend who truly trusts you, you have a lot more responsibility, privilege and control than you would think. Be careful with it, most guys would kill for that kind of power, and it can be lost in a nanosecond.

85. Variety is the spice of life. There are patterns underlying what your woman says she likes and doesn't like. It would benefit you far more to try and discern the nature of these than to repeat everything she admits to enjoying until she no longer does.

86. Most men think that the chase ends once they have their dream women, but truly it has only just began. Men must work even harder to keep woman then just earning back the women. Women not some trophy a men can earn, put on a shelf and admire. Men have to care for women like the living human beings which woman are.

87. WHEN GIRLS SAY NO IT'S NO, SO STOP ASKING!!!

88. If someone flirts with girls, it's a complement. If girls you are not interested, accept it but don't flirt back.

89. The woman in a men life needs to hear how you feel about her, and often. Tell her now.

90. All women are complicated, and it is doubtful any man will ever fully be able to understand women. But they know that, so it's going to be ok.

91. Girls want you to show a good example in front of their family members.

92. Girls is GOOD in hiding secret in front the guys they like.

93. Girls make A PERFECT DISH!!!!!

94. Girls know more about the guys they like compare to themselves.

95. Girls like guys they like to flirt with them all times.

96. Girls NEVER believe in first sight but they believe in first impression.

97. Girls like inner soft but outer hard guys.

98. Girls don't take it as a joke when you spoken about their boy friend.

99. Girls don't like guys who show attitude to them when breaking up they feel like you are the most horrible person that she ever knew.

100. Girls like to hug guys from behind. same like my girl friend LIM YIK MAY. ^^